i was raised, by society and family, to trust and look for an authoritative voice to dictate my actions and decisions. as a young adult and adult, i have made choices dictating my life frequently. i have not had or taken authoritative direction for many, many years. still, i search for the easy comfort in that voice, something or someone telling you what the “right” choice or the “right” path is. that is not a position of self-reliance. it is a position that abdicates responsibility to the voice of another, freeing you to perform the consequences of a limiting decision. it is accepting comfort and ease in exchange for a smaller available world.

we are not always fortunate to have a complete picture when we need it. vital pieces of information often elude our grasp when the time comes to choose which fork to take in the road. it would be easier to wait for more information to come to us or for an answer from the outside. the world continues to move, however, and so must we, lest we lose the ability to dictate our own fate.

life, then, is less often about making the “right” decision, as it is about doing right with the decisions that we have already made.